The following list of books are ones I have found useful, and/or clients have recommended as being useful to their own growth.
Trauma Recovery
- Brown, Nina (2001) Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grownup’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.
- Davis, Laura (1991) Allies in Healing: When the person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child. New York. Harper Perennial.
- Frankl, Victor (1984) Man’s Search For Meaning. New York: Simon & Schuster.
- Golumb, Elan (1995) Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self. New York: William Morrow and Co.
- Graber, Ken (1991) Ghosts In The Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
- Haines, Staci (1999) The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse. San Francisco: Cleis Press.
- Levine, Peter (1997) Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books.
- Levine, Peter (2008) Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body. Sounds True.
- Menakem, Resmaa (2017) My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies. Central Recovery Press.
- Pelzer, Dave (1995) A Child Called “It”: One Child’s Courage to Survive. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
- Scarf, Maggie (2005) Secrets, Lies, Betrayals; How the Body Holds the Secrets of a Life, and How to Unlock Them. New York: Ballantine Books.
EMDR and Bilateral Stimulation
- Grand, David (2003) Emotional Healing at Warp Speed: The Power of EMDR. USA: Present Tents.
- Parnell, Laura (2008) Tapping In: A Step-By-Step Guide to Activating Your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation. Boulder, CO: Sounds True, Inc.
- Shapiro, Francine & Forrest, Margot S. (2004) EMDR: The Breakthrough “Eye Movement” Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma. New York: Basic Books.
Relationships
- Campbell, Susan (2005) Saying What’s Real: 7 Keys to Authentic Communication and Relationship Success. Novato, CA: H J Kramer.
- Hendricks, Gay & Hendricks, Kathlyn (1990) Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment. New York: Bantam.
- Hendricks, Gay & Hendricks, Kathlyn (1999) The Conscious Heart: Seven Soul-Choices That Inspire Creative Partnership. New York: Bantam.
- Hutslar, Julie (2004) Relationships: Gifts of the Spirit: How to view challenging relationships as opportunities for growth. Cedar City, UT: Luminous Epinoia Press.
- Kasl, Charlotte (1999) If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path. New York: Penguin Group.
- Kasl, Charlotte (2001) If the Buddha Married: Creating Enduring Relationships on a Spiritual Path. New York: Penguin Group.
- Kendrick, Steven & Alex (2008) The Love Dare. Nashville, Tennessee: B & H Publishing Group.
- Levine, Amir and Heller, Rachel (2010) Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love. Tarcher Perigee
- Levine, Stephen & Levine, Ondrea (1995) Embracing The Beloved: Relationship As A Path Of Awakening. New York: Doubleday.
- Psaris, Jett & Lyons, Marlena S. (2000) Undefended Love. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.
- Rosenberg, Marshall B. (2005) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Encinitas, CA: PuddleDancer Press.
- Woodward Thomas, Katherine (2004) Calling In “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Families
- The Arbinger Institute (2006) The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc.
- Bernstein, Robert (1995) Straight Parents Gay Children: Keeping Families Together. New York: Thunder’s Mouth Press.
- Due, Linnea (1995) Joining Tribe: Growing Up Gay & Lesbian in the ‘90’s. New York: Anchor Books.
- Funderburg, Lise (1994) Black, White, Other: Biracial Americans Talk About Race and Identity. New York: William Morrow and Company.
- Gore, Ariel with Swift, Maia (2004) Whatever, Mom: Hip Mama’s Guide to Raising a Teenager. Emeryville, CA: Seal Press.
- Heron, Ann, ed. (1994) Two Teenagers in Twenty: Writings by gay and lesbian youth. Boston: Alyson Publications.
- Krasnow, Iris (2006) I Am My Mother’s Daughter: Making Peace with Mom Before It’s Too Late. New York: Basic Books.
- Lehman, Kevin (1984) Making Children Mind without Losing Yours. USA: Baker Book House.
- Lehman, Kevin (1979) Parenthood Without Hassles: well almost. Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers (out of print.)
- Lencioni, Patrick (2008) The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family: A Leadership Fable. . . about restoring sanity to the most important organization in your life. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.
- Lerner, Harriet (1998) The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life. New York: Harper Collins.
- Mehdi, Sharon (2005) The Great Silent Grandmother Gathering. New York: Viking.
- Newman, Leslea & Souza, Diana (2000) Heather Has Two Mommies. Los Angeles: Alyson Publications.
- Singer, Bennett, ed. (1994) Growing Up Gay/Growing Up Lesbian: A Literary Anthology. New York: New Press.
- Wisdom, Susan & Green, Jennifer (2002) Step coupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family. New York: Three Rivers Press.
- Wolf, Anthony (2002) Get Out of My Life: but first could you drive me and Cheryl to the mall? New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
Personal Development
- Baldwin Christina (1998) Calling The Circle: The First and Future Culture. New York: Bantam.
- Castle, Victoria (2006) The Trance of Scarcity: Hey! Stop Holding Your Breath and Start Living Your Life. Clinton, WA: Sagacious Press.
- Choquette, Sonia (1997) Your Heart’s Desire. New York: Three Rivers Press.
- Covey, S. (1989) The seven habits of highly successful people: Powerful lessons in personal change. New York: Simon and Schuster.
- Dyer, W. (2004) The power of intention: Learning to co-create your world your way. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House.
- Johnson, Robert and Ruhl, Jerry (2007) Living Your Unlived Life: Coping with Unrealized Dreams and Fulfilling Your Purpose in the Second Half of Life. New York: Penguin Group.
- Lubrano, Alfred (2005) Limbo: Blue-Collar Roots, White-Collar Dreams. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley and Sons.
- Richo, David (1991) How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration. New York: Paulist Press.
- Stanny, Barbara (2005) Overcoming Underearning. New York: Harper Collins.
Spiritual Development
- Butterworth, Eric (2001) The Creative Life: 7 Keys To Your Inner Genius. New York: Penguin Group (USA).
- Butterworth, Eric (2001) Spiritual Economics: The Principles and Process of Ture Prosperity. Unity Village, MO: Unity House.
- Kornfield, Jack. (1993) A Path With Heart. New York: Bantam Books.
- Twist, L., (2003). The soul of money: Transforming your relationship with money and life. New York: W.W. Norton & Co.
Women
- Cantor, D. & Bernay, T. (1992) Women in Power: The secrets of leadership. Boston: Houghton Mifflin.
- Duerk, Judith (1999) Circle of Stones: Woman’s Journey to Herself. Philadelphia: Innisfree Press, Inc.
- Ollivier, Debra (2003) A Woman’s Guide to Finding Her Inner French Girl. New York: St. Martin’s Griffin.
- Shinoda Bolen, Jean (1999) The Millionth Circle: How to Change Ourselves and The World. Berkeley: Conari Press.
- Solden, Sari (1995) Women with Attention Deficit Disorder. Grass Valley, CA: Underwood Books.
- Stanny, Barbara (1999) Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money. New York: Penguin.
Men
- Gurian, Michael (1996) The Wonder of Boys. New York: Tarcher.
- Harris, Bud (2002) Sacred Selfishness: A Guide to Living a Life of Substance. Maui: Inner Ocean Publishing.
- Hollis, James (1993) The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife. Toronto, Canada: Inner City Books.
Moods and Emotions
- Brown, Brene (2004) Women and Shame: Reaching Out, Speaking Truths and Building Connections. Austin, TX:3C Press.
- Childre, Doc & Rozman, Deborah (2003) Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration, and Irritation. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.
- Childre, Doc & Rozman, Deborah (2006) Transforming Anxiety: The HeartMath Solution for Overcoming Fear and Worry and Creating Serenity. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.
- Childre, Doc & Martin, Howard (1999) The Heartmath Solution. New York: HarperCollins.
- Jeffers, Susan (1987) Feel the fear and do it anyway. New York: Fawcett Columbine.
- Jeffers, Susan (1987) Feel the fear…and beyond: Mastering the techniques for doing it anyway! New York: Fawcett Columbine.
- Lerner, Harriet (1997) The Dance of Anger. New York: Harper Collins.
- Potter-Efron, Patricia & Potter-Efron, Ronald (1999) The Secret Message of Shame: Pathways to Hope and Healing. Oakland: Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.
- Ross, Julia (2002) The Mood Cure. New York: Penguin.
Fairy Tales, Memoirs, and Novels
- Diamant, Anita (1997) The Red Tent. New York: Picador.
- Gilbert, Elizabeth (2006) Eat, Love, Pray: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India, and Indonesia. New York: Viking Adult.
- Grad, Marcia (1995) The Princess Who Believed in Fairy Tales: A Story for Modern Times. Hollywood: Wilshire Book Company.
- Irving, John (1990) A prayer for Owen Meany. Mass Market Paperback.
- Kinstler, Clysta (1991) The Moon Under Her Feet. HarperSanFrancisco.
- Lauck, Jennifer (2000) Blackbird: A Childhood Lost and Found. New York: Pocket Books.
- Lauck, Jennifer (2001) Still Waters. New York: Pocket Books.
- Lauck, Jennifer (2004) Show Me The Way: A Memoir in Stories. New York: Atria Books.
- Redfield, James (1993) The Celestine Prophecy. New York: Warner Books.
- Saracino, Mary (2001) Voices of the Soft-Bellied Warrior: A Memoir. Denver: Spinsters Inks Books.
Business/Entrepreneur
- The Arbinger Institute (2002) Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc.
- Gladwell, M. (2002) The tipping point: How little things can make a big difference. New York: Little, Brown & Co.
- Gladwell, M. (2005) Blink: The power of thinking without thinking. New York: Little, Brown & Co.
- Lencioni, Patrick (2004) Death by Meeting: A Leadership Fable about solving the most painful problems in business. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.
- Lencioni, Patrick (2002) The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.
- Lencioni, Patrick (2006) Silos, Politics and Turf Wars: A Leadership Fable about destroying the barriers that turn colleagues into competitors. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.